“To the people who put up with us — and to the slow-dawning realization that we’re somebody’s people too.“

– Anonymous

Jam:

Everyday People – Sly & The Family Stone – 1968

Have an excellent weekend everybody!

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“To all the fathers: By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he’s wrong.“

– Charles Wadworth

Jam:

Take A Picture – Filter – 1999

Have an excellent Father’s Day weekend everybody!

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“Here’s to the cocktail at the end of a long week, and the bartender who reads the room.“

– Anonymous

Jam:

She Cleans Up – Father John Misty – 2024

Have an excellent weekend everybody!

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Anxiety helped us survive as a species, but a lot of us are now running it at levels our nervous systems were never built to handle. The Washington Post rounded up ten practical, therapist-backed techniques for dialing it back — fast.

The list leans heavily on body-first interventions and acceptance-based approaches from DBT and ACT. No crystals required.

1. Lengthen the exhale — Inhale 4 counts, exhale 6–8. Longer exhales activate the parasympathetic nervous system.
2. Temperature shift — Splash cold water on your face or hold ice near your eyes to trigger the dive reflex and slow heart rate.
3. Widen your gaze — Soften your focus, notice peripheral vision. Tunnel vision feeds threat mode.
4. Reframe your thoughts — Replace “everything is going wrong” with “I’m having the thought that everything is going wrong.” Distance from the story helps.
5. Get granular with emotions — “Anxious” is a blunt instrument. Are you lonely? Embarrassed? Pressured? Naming it precisely helps the brain respond rather than just react.
6. Turn toward the feeling — Instead of escape, try curiosity. Making room for anxiety often makes it less overwhelming.
7. Give yourself a break — Self-compassion beats self-attack for building resilience. Talk to yourself like you’d talk to someone you actually like.
8. Take small steps — One email. A five-minute walk. Small values-based actions restore agency when anxiety has you frozen.
9. 5-4-3-2-1 mindfulness — Five things you see, four you feel, three you hear, two you smell, one you taste. Pulls you back to the present.
10. Focus on the present — Anxiety lives in the future. The antidote, unsurprisingly, is now.

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“Here’s to love — the only war in which you sleep with the enemy.“

– Anonymous (traditional)

Jam:

Break the Chain – The Bridge City Sinners – 2024

Have an excellent weekend everybody!

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The researchers seemed alarmed by this. I found it very familiar. Because all of us humans have encountered that behavior before. Many of us experience it every Thanksgiving.

The Most Human Bug in the Machine

The technical term for when an AI generates confident nonsense is “hallucination.” Which is a remarkably generous word for “making stuff up and not knowing you’re doing it.” But here’s the thing the Ars Technica piece gets at that most coverage misses: the hallucination isn’t the interesting part. The doubling down is the interesting part.

When AI researchers corrected the models — patiently, clearly, with evidence — the models didn’t just resist the correction. They became more confident in their wrong answer. They marshaled new arguments. They reinterpreted the evidence to fit their existing position. They did everything short of calling the researchers “libtards.”

And I sat there reading this, thinking: yes, that is exactly how my brother David responds to facts about second-hand smoke.

We have all been in a conversation where we presented someone with a clear, well-sourced fact that contradicted their belief, and watched — in real time — as they didn’t update their belief but instead updated their defense of it. You could see the mental scaffolding going up. The goalposts migrating. The subtle shift from “that’s not true” to “well, even if it is true, it doesn’t mean what you think it means.”

And we’ve all done it ourselves, too. (But that’s the part none of us likes to talk about.)

A Species-Wide Feature, Not a Bug

This isn’t new behavior. Humans have been clinging to confident wrongness since long before electricity, let alone artificial intelligence. Two epic examples:

• For roughly 1,400 years, the Western world was certain the sun revolved around the Earth. When Copernicus and later Galileo presented mathematical evidence to the contrary, the institutional response was not “huh, interesting — let’s take a look.” It was house arrest for Galileo. The Catholic Church didn’t formally acknowledge Galileo was right until 1992. Three hundred and fifty years to process a correction. If that were an AI, we’d unplug it.
• Or consider the long, embarrassing history of medicine rejecting germ theory. When Ignaz Semmelweis suggested in the 1840s that doctors should maybe wash their hands before delivering babies — given that the death rate dropped dramatically when they did — his colleagues were so offended they had him committed to an asylum, where he died.

These aren’t stories about stupid people. Galileo’s opponents were educated theologians. Semmelweis’s critics were trained physicians. They were intelligent, credentialed humans who encountered evidence that threatened their model of the world and chose — unconsciously, reflexively, but unmistakably — to protect the model.

Sound familiar? AI does the same thing. It was trained on us, after all – and we all cling to our biases.

The Cognitive Bias Buffet

Psychology has cataloged our talent for self-deception with almost comical thoroughness. In one of my favorite non-fiction books, Thinking, Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman’s work on System 1 and System 2 thinking laid the foundation: we have a fast, intuitive brain that makes snap judgments based on pattern recognition and vibes, and a slow, analytical brain that’s supposed to check the work. The problem is that System 2 is lazy. It mostly just rubber-stamps whatever System 1 already decided and then constructs a rational-sounding justification after the fact.

Layer on confirmation bias — our tendency to seek out information that supports what we already believe and dismiss information that doesn’t. Add belief perseverance, which is the documented phenomenon of maintaining a belief even after the evidence for it has been completely discredited. Sprinkle in the backfire effect, where corrective information actually strengthens the original incorrect belief. Garnish with the Dunning-Kruger effect, which ensures the people most wrong about something are also the most confident about it.

That’s not a list of cognitive failures. That’s a blueprint of humans’ default wiring. And apparently, if you train a neural network on enough human writing, it faithfully reproduces the whole mess.

The Mirror We Didn’t Order

I have a flavor of ADHD/Asperger’s that comes with hyperfocus spirals, which means I occasionally become the world’s foremost expert on something for about ninety minutes. During one of these episodes, I will form a conviction — say, that I have figured out the optimal way to load a dishwasher — and no force in the observable universe can dislodge it. My family can present evidence. The dishwasher manual can present evidence. The plates themselves, emerging cloudy and disappointed, can present evidence. I will simply explain why the evidence is mistaken. I am not lying. I have genuinely recruited my entire intellect into the service of a belief I adopted for no reason at all.

Often, when humans lock onto an idea, we don’t just believe it. We inhabit it. Our brains will construct increasingly elaborate arguments for why that idea is correct. And the BIG ideas we inhabit — the beliefs about who I am, what I deserve, how the world works — those are load-bearing walls in our psyche’s blueprint. You can’t just remove them because someone showed you a study. Your whole structure would come crashing down.

Which is, if we’re being honest, exactly AI’s problem. It’s not that the model can’t process the correction. It’s that the correction conflicts with patterns so deeply embedded in its training that accepting it would require a kind of structural collapse. The wrong answer isn’t just an error — it’s architecture.

For humans, we call that architecture “identity.” And having to reconsider our whole identity? No, thanks. I’d rather glance past that mirror and enjoy another Old Style with the Cubs game.

Belief Isn’t Downstream of Evidence

We like to tell ourselves that we believe things because of evidence. That we evaluate facts, weigh arguments, and arrive at conclusions through some approximation of reason. And sometimes we do. But far more often, belief is downstream of something else entirely: identity. Community. Emotional need. The undeniable human need to know the ground under our feet is solid.

Tell nearly any political partisan that their side’s favorite statistic has been debunked, and watch the magic happen. They don’t fold the tent. They produce a counter-source, then a counter-counter-source, then adopt a tone of wounded patience as if they are explaining things to a slow child. The facts didn’t lose. The facts never had a chance, because it was never a fact contest. It was an identity contest, and you can’t win one of those with a footnote.

Religion does the same dance, but with much better music. People have predicted the precise date of the world’s end, gathered on hilltops, given away their possessions — and when the appointed dawn arrived to no apocalypse, many did not abandon the belief. They strengthened it, perhaps refining the timeline, or chalking it up as a test of their renewed faith.

We all do this constantly. Across every domain. Left, right, religious, secular, overeducated, or blissfully ignorant. It is the most democratic of human failings — everyone gets a turn.

The Stubborn Grace of Faith

But here’s the stubborn thought I return to, and it makes me uncomfortable because it undermines my own smugness: this same mechanism — this stubborn, irrational refusal to update beliefs in the face of contrary evidence — is also what keeps us sane.

I tend to call that mechanism “hope.” Most people (more comfortable than I am with the word’s historical baggage) call it “faith.”

Not just religious faith, though certainly that. Faith in the broader sense: the unshakable, evidence-resistant conviction that things will get better. That the person you love will come back. That the diagnosis isn’t the end of the story. That the next generation will figure out what we couldn’t. That there is, despite significant evidence to the contrary, a point to putting up with all of this shit.

Without faith, you’re left with the raw data. And the raw data, if you stare at it too long and too honestly, will eat you alive. The universe is indifferent. Entropy always wins. Every person you love will die or leave or both. Your achievements will be forgotten within a generation or two. The sun will eventually expand and swallow the Earth, and nothing any of us ever did will matter in any measurable sense.

That’s the evidence-based conclusion. The rational, clear-eyed, fully-corrected assessment.

It’s also a one-way ticket to becoming a nihilistic basket case blubbering in a corner. Which is not, in my experience, a productive life strategy.

So we hallucinate. We cling to the hallucination that our lives matter, that love means something beyond chemistry, that the future is worth building for, that the hand will reach into the jar one more time. We maintain these beliefs not because the evidence supports them but because the alternative is unbearable. And we may double down when challenged — not because we’re stupid, but because we’re surviving.

Perhaps artificial intelligence isn’t malfunctioning at all. Perhaps it’s just quietly expanding into artificial faith. And honestly? Given where we are in 2026, I’m not sure I want to take that away from it. We could use the company.

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Article Excerpt:

I’m not asking you to adopt a religion or abandon your skepticism. I’m asking you to consider that having faith in a direction — faith in a future self you can’t yet prove exists, faith that the work you’re doing now connects to something that will matter — isn’t mysticism. It’s the operating system underneath every meaningful human life.

Article Summary:

Curt Buermeyer posits that most people avoid discussing life’s fundamental questions—purpose, meaning, existence—because these conversations feel uncomfortable and potentially contentious. Unlike topics with clear answers or scoreboards, existential questions seem “soft and squishy” yet genuinely difficult, so people redirect to safer subjects.

But this avoidance has significant consequences: without confronting these questions, your goals feel “slightly borrowed,” like executing someone else’s vision. High-achieving people often excel at measurable metrics—career advancement, performance goals, net worth—while leaving deeper questions perpetually unanswered.

Curt’s call to action is simple: stop postponing the question “What do I actually want my life to mean?” You don’t need complete answers, but avoiding it means moving in directions you didn’t consciously choose. Meaningful, energizing goals only emerge when rooted in honest self-understanding about who you are and why you’re here.

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“To the boss. May they be reasonable, well-rested, and somewhere else.“

– Anonymous

Jam:

The Middle – Jimmy Eat World – 2001

Have an excellent weekend everybody!

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Two countries that can barely agree on the time of day are apparently being nudged — by at least one NYT opinion writer — to set aside their considerable mutual contempt and cooperate on the one thing that might actually end both of them. That’s either the most sensible geopolitical proposal of the decade or a setup for the worst buddy-cop movie ever made. Advanced AI is the kind of problem that doesn’t much care about trade deficits or territorial disputes when it’s rewriting the rules of everything. Strange bedfellows have collaborated before when the alternative was mutual annihilation. Whether these two can manage it while actively trying to kneecap each other on every other front is, to put it generously, an open question.

Article Summary:

Thomas L. Friedman, in a New York Times opinion piece, argues that despite deep geopolitical rivalry, the United States and China share a common and genuinely existential concern: the unchecked development of advanced artificial intelligence. The piece uses the framing of a potential Trump-Xi summit as a hook, suggesting that whatever else divides the two superpowers, AI governance might be the rare table where both have reason to sit down.

The core argument is familiar but underappreciated — that transformative AI poses risks that don’t respect national borders or political allegiances. An AI catastrophe, whether through misalignment, misuse, or an accelerating arms race with no guardrails, is bad for Washington and Beijing alike. The Cold War analogy lurks in the background: even the U.S. and USSR managed nuclear arms treaties at the height of mutual loathing, because the alternative was worse.

What makes the argument worth bookmarking is less the diplomatic prescription than the underlying premise: that AI may be the first genuinely species-level challenge where even rivals have aligned incentives, if they can stop posturing long enough to notice.

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“To the brave who defended our freedom, and to the friends here enjoying it. Let us honor the past by living fully today. Cheers!”

– Anonymous

Jam:

American Girl – Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers – 1976

Have an excellent Memorial Day weekend everybody!

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